Marvin Sordell....depression

[Tricky Trevor]

This topic pops up now and again on here so I thought some might be interested in Marvin Sordells excellent article on his problems.

https://www.fourfourtwo.com/features/ma ... depression" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Good luck to the fella.

[NickBFC]

Yes, good luck to him. Is there a dislike button for the two comments above?

[wilks_bfc]

This thread opitimises why men don't talk about depression.

People think that footballers have no reason to be depressed, but depression doesn’t think “oh he’s rich and successful I’ll go onto Bill the factory worker instead”

Chances are you’ll be working, living or good friends with somebody with some form of depression and they are doing their best to hide it.

Talk, listen be there for somebody.
You never know, they may need to be there for you someday

[moaninclaret]

Depression affects all kinds of people from all walks of life, rich or poor it takes no prisoners, a nasty condition for anyone to have, its not easy to detect, even from the people living around you, i went through a bad time myself until i spoke about it, took a few months taking meds and a bit of counselling to get me feeling some bit like, so if you or someone you know seems to be depressed, TALK TO SOMEONE. All the best to Sordell.

[ClaretTony]

Yes, good luck to him. Is there a dislike button for the two comments above?

No, but someone has reported them and the offending and totally unnecessary posts have been removed.

[shulgin]

God forbid anyone close to these trolls suffering from depression and having to rely on their support.

[Pimlico_Claret]

God forbid anyone close to these trolls suffering from depression and having to rely on their support.

Thankfully those who saw the offenders names will remember, and treat them with the contempt they deserve.

[TVC15]

Thankfully those who saw the offenders names will remember, and treat them with the contempt they deserve.

Theroyaldyche and Steve1956.....just for those who might have missed it !

[ClaretAndJew]

Interesting that my post has also been deleted.

[Darnhill Claret]

Happy to say that my doctor has said that I am now able to come off my meds that I have been on for 9 years. Started reducing my intake 3 weeks ago and all is going well so far. It has been a long hard road, but the future is the brightest it has been for what seems like an eternity. 67 this year and looking to get back to work. If you can be patient with the sufferer it will be a massive help for them.

[cricketfieldclarets]

Listened to an excellent interview with 'dr phil' on joe roegan on the drive home. Highly recommended. And he advocates drugs as a last resort. And hes a doctor in america!

[Bosscat]

Interesting that my post has also been deleted.

Not really

You said it "Optimises" instead of "Epitomises"

This thread opitimises why men don't talk about depression.

A mistake like that deserves deletion

[Pimlico_Claret]

Interesting that my post has also been deleted.

My post criticising Theroyaldyche was deleted, but I assume that's because I had quoted his idiotic one.

[ClaretAndJew]

Not really

You said it "Optimises" instead of "Epitomises"



A mistake like that deserves deletion

Do you fancy a cuddle mate? Like a serious cuddle just me and you.

[Steve1956]

Theroyaldyche and Steve1956.....just for those who might have missed it !

I object to this post,nothing I said was offensive,it was light hearted tongue in cheek....chill man.

[tim_noone]

I object to this post,nothing I said was offensive,it was light hearted tongue in cheek....chill man.

Booooooooo!!

[Bosscat]

Do you fancy a cuddle mate? Like a serious cuddle just me and you.

Awwwweeee how sweet

[IanMcL]

Best wishes to Marvin for future wellbeing.

[Tricky Trevor]

You said it "Optimises" instead of "Epitomises"

"Can I have another vowel please, Rachel"

[Steve1956]

Booooooooo!!

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[tim_noone]

I was only jesting ..as per.

[Steve1956]

I was only jesting ..as per.

And I'm sulking ....as per.

[Bosscat]

And I'm sulking ....as per.

C&J wants a hug

[Steve1956]

C&J wants a hug

I know what he does want it's definitely not a hug!

[Bosscat]

I know what he does want it's definitely not a hug!

[elwaclaret]

Happy to say that my doctor has said that I am now able to come off my meds that I have been on for 9 years. Started reducing my intake 3 weeks ago and all is going well so far. It has been a long hard road, but the future is the brightest it has been for what seems like an eternity. 67 this year and looking to get back to work. If you can be patient with the sufferer it will be a massive help for them.

Sounds like what i went through Darnhill. The ten years from 2007 are a complete write off for me, following a depression driven mental breakdown. Been off the meds for over a year now and am now back in education (having lost touch with all tech since 2007) getting my English and History degrees. I still take it one day at a time, but luckily now I can spot "black dog" days and accept there are times when there is just no point mentally beating myself up that I just can't "pull myself together" which in itself helps quicken my recovery. Good luck and I'm always available for anyone needing a non-judgemental chat with someone who avoided section on at least 4 occasions (to my knowledge) where a strong family unit saved me that stigma.

Best of luck to you and all dealing with it.

[taio]

I know what he does want it's definitely not a hug!

He must asking someone if they want a cuddle is some kind of witty retort with the amount of times he says it. It's not.

[Shore claret]

I'm currently in the middle of a marriage break up and I know not seeing my kids every day is going to seriously affect me, anyone got any tips for staving off the lows?

[ClaretAndJew]

I know what he does want it's definitely not a hug!

Go on then

[elwaclaret]

I'm currently in the middle of a marriage break up and I know not seeing my kids every day is going to seriously affect me, anyone got any tips for staving off the lows?

By far the best tip I can give is to recognize them for what they are. You will find yourself unable to concentrate and agitated. Quick to temper (even when you don't know why) and probably suffer from what they call "Procrastinating Perfectionism" - putting off jobs convinced you cannot do them justice, or worse still re-doing things over an over again (for the littlest minute benefit) which is a form of OCD connected to PP.... I spent three days doing 12 hour sessions writing an essay, which is when I realized I still did it even now, but have the "wellness" to have recognized and looked into methods of overcoming it. Overthinking everything is also a clear sign... I find myself worrying about conversations I had thirty years ago. There are now some very good mental wellbeing sites that can really help. For example one such site I found the answer for writing my academic essays which I now use for all my work.

Mainly it is finding what works for you, but don't be ashamed of your feelings, recognize them and work with them for what they are. Remember always depression is an illness that invariably effects deep thinkers of often higher than normal intellegence... you are in the company of some of the greatest minds of all time.

[ClaretAndJew]

He must asking someone if they want a cuddle is some kind of witty retort with the amount of times he says it. It's not.

Do you want a cuddle?

[Steve1956]

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Go on then

[taio]

Do you want a cuddle?

No.

[Shore claret]

By far the best tip I can give is to recognize them for what they are. You will find yourself unable to concentrate and agitated. Quick to temper (even when you don't know why) and probably suffer from what they call "Procrastinating Perfectionism" - putting off jobs convinced you cannot do them justice, or worse still re-doing things over an over again (for the littlest minute benefit) which is a form of OCD connected to PP.... I spent three days doing 12 hour sessions writing an essay, which is when I realized I still did it even now, but have the "wellness" to have recognized and looked into methods of overcoming it. Overthinking everything is also a clear sign... I find myself worrying about conversations I had thirty years ago. There are now some very good mental wellbeing sites that can really help. For example one such site I found the answer for writing my academic essays which I now use for all my work.

Mainly it is finding what works for you, but don't be ashamed of your feelings, recognize them and work with them for what they are. Remember always depression is an illness that invariably effects deep thinkers of often higher than normal intellegence... you are in the company of some of the greatest minds of all time.

I do over analise things to the point of sending myself in a right muddle and getting in a real mess.

[elwaclaret]

I do over analise things to the point of sending myself in a right muddle and getting in a real mess.

Yep. Know it well. Keep a pen and paper on you, lists work for me... when I realize I'm going over the same ground from a new angle it acts of proof of what my mind is up to... at that point with time and mind training you will be able to consciously stop and "box it" as I call it. I actually love that I can now switch thoughts on and off at will in a way I never even knew was possible... but it takes time to master and even now there are days when I just have to hold my hands up to "one of those days"... but like I said spotting it and rolling with it when you have to in itself helps overcome the worst of depressions longer-term effects... usually in the form of some unwarranted self-reproach or other.