What actually constitutes “respect” ?

[cblantfanclub]

Self explanatory question.

[Rowls]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FOUqQt3Kg0

edit - other definitions are available.

[Beagle]

https://youtu.be/x34icYC8zA0

[Hipper]

When you agree with me.

[Cirrus_Minor]

Dress in as much black as possible.
Head always bowed.
Eyes never raised above mid point
Voice spoken quietly, slowly in deep, almost whispered tones.
Most importantly, an attitude showing that you know your place.

[bfcjg]

Shooting or stabbing fellow teenagers or fellow young men gets you respect in some quarters.

[GordonvaleClaret]

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is a good starting reference.

[2 Bee Holed]

Self explanatory question.

The fact you have felt it necessary to ask is worrying.
It means we of the older generation have failed in our duty to teach you.

[dougcollins]

Considering his username, I doubt that 'cblantfanclub' is particularly young.

[2 Bee Holed]

About a month ago, my Wife and I caught a tram into town (Manchester), I was amazed at the number of adults standing whilst 5 to 15 year olds occupied seats often with their parents present.
You were taught never to answer a policeman, teacher or anyone in authority back.
Speak only when spoken to.
Respect your elders, listen to them and learn from them. Let people in shops come out before you go in. Hold a door open, especially for a lady. Surrender your seat for a lady.

I could go on. It is all taught from an early age.

[2 Bee Holed]

My pet hate at the moment is being called 'mate'.

If I don't know somebody's name I call them Sir or young man.

I bite their ear off if they call me mate.
' not a problem', well actually it is a f**king problem, otherwise I wouldn't be bringing it to your attention, you condescending p**ck. I think I took him by surprise.

My manners suddenly left me.

[pushpinpussy]

My pet hate at the moment is being called 'mate'.

If I don't know somebody's name I call them Sir or young man.

I bite their ear off if they call me mate.
' not a problem', well actually it is a f**king problem, otherwise I wouldn't be bringing it to your attention, you condescending p**ck. I think I took him by surprise.

My manners suddenly left me.

but if someone called me young man i would also find that condescending

[GordonvaleClaret]

My pet hate at the moment is being called 'mate'.

Don't come to Australia mate.

[2 Bee Holed]

Don't come to Australia mate.

Lived and worked there for a year. I found it quite endearing there. Furthermore, for a bunch of convicts, I found it quite polite and one of the more friendly names I had.

[2 Bee Holed]

but if someone called me young man i would also find that condescending

I alright, mate.

[2 Bee Holed]

but if someone called me young man i would also find that condescending

The condescending bit was him telling me something was 'not a problem', when actually to me it was a problem.

Not the use of the term mate, that I just find rude, showing bad manners and disrespectful.

[Volvoclaret]

For the yoof contributors he means respeck innit.

[Billy Balfour]

The condescending bit was him telling me something was 'not a problem', when actually to me it was a problem.

Not the use of the term mate, that I just find rude, showing bad manners and disrespectful.

I wouldn't let it bother you, pal.

[pushpinpussy]

my wife's diary states i don't respect her

[Holmeclaret]

Knowing that folk are a collection of their own life experiences and that their interpretations are subjective and are based on those experiences. Treat them with dignity or walk away if that’s difficult.

[welsbyswife]

About a month ago, my Wife and I caught a tram into town (Manchester), I was amazed at the number of adults standing whilst 5 to 15 year olds occupied seats often with their parents present.
You were taught never to answer a policeman, teacher or anyone in authority back.
Speak only when spoken to.
Respect your elders, listen to them and learn from them. Let people in shops come out before you go in. Hold a door open, especially for a lady. Surrender your seat for a lady.

I could go on. It is all taught from an early age.

Old women are the worst for not holding doors and failing to even acknowledge, yet alone say thanks, to those who hold doors open for them. The manners of old people just aren't what they used to be

[Burnley1989]

About a month ago, my Wife and I caught a tram into town (Manchester), I was amazed at the number of adults standing whilst 5 to 15 year olds occupied seats often with their parents present.
You were taught never to answer a policeman, teacher or anyone in authority back.
Speak only when spoken to.
Respect your elders, listen to them and learn from them. Let people in shops come out before you go in. Hold a door open, especially for a lady. Surrender your seat for a lady.

I could go on. It is all taught from an early age.

I have to say though, I find the older generation some of the rudest people you will meet at times, I’ve opened doors, said hello, smiled, just to be ignored.
My mrs pointed it out at the airport recently, the ones being hard work and rude to staff were aged 60+.
We got the bus from the plane to the terminal building and not one person stood up for a lady with a baby, all just looked at the floor.
I’d certainly not write off the elderly when having a dig at the younger generation.

[conyoviejo]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x34icYC ... 2KjB4oSJEQ

[conyoviejo]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A134hSh ... 2KjB4oSJEQ

[Burnley1989]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YWLMnX8F45M

[mealdeal]

My pet hate at the moment is being called 'mate'.

If I don't know somebody's name I call them Sir or young man.

I bite their ear off if they call me mate.
' not a problem', well actually it is a f**king problem, otherwise I wouldn't be bringing it to your attention, you condescending p**ck. I think I took him by surprise.

My manners suddenly left me.

Any money, you’re a bigger prick than he was mate

[Beagle]

Lot of tosh on this thread. Older people have always thought the new youngest generation are unfathomably rude and disrespectful compared to ‘their’ day; it’s always been self-assuring, arrogant rubbish.

Lots of old people are rude and inconsiderate, many young people are kind and respectful, the opposite is also true. This was the case 20, 30, 50 and 100 years ago, too.

[Billy Balfour]

Children nowadays are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannise their teachers. Socrates, circa 425 B. C.

[dougcollins]

Children nowadays are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannise their teachers. Socrates, circa 425 B. C.

Had a very philosophical view that Socrates.

[Lancasterclaret]

"99% of quotes you read on the internet are fake"

Abraham Lincoln 1864

[2 Bee Holed]

Any money, you’re a bigger prick than he was mate

Sticks and stones and all that.
Some of you lot are hilarious.

[Claretmisterg]

My pet hate at the moment is being called 'mate'.

If I don't know somebody's name I call them Sir or young man.

I bite their ear off if they call me mate.
' not a problem', well actually it is a f**king problem, otherwise I wouldn't be bringing it to your attention, you condescending p**ck. I think I took him by surprise.

My manners suddenly left me.

I totally agree. I hate being called mate as well so I would never call anybody I don’t know “mate”. I call them pal instead which is far more respectful.

[ClaretPete001]

I think this dictionary definition is quite good ..

"Due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others."

[NottsClaret]

You were taught never to answer a policeman, teacher or anyone in authority back.

Unfortunately it’s that sort of unquestioned ‘respect’ that led to horrendous abuses in the past. Authority should be questioned.

They’ve tried really hard in aviation and medicine to end the culture of not speaking out or not questioning your elders or supposed superiors.

As for kids today, they’re great. Thoughtful, kind, generous.. there’s little s***s too, but I remember just as many of those 30 years ago too.

[TheFamilyCat]

Respect your elders, listen to them and learn from them.

I could go on. It is all taught from an early age.

I'm sorry, but no. Respect should be earned and living to be old isn't enough alone to earn respect.

I've met plenty of 'old' people I have no respect for (and plenty who I do) and certainly wouldn't want to learn from them, unless the lesson is "how not to be a tw@t".

[Damo]

Be kind and polite, and the world will be right

[boatshed bill]

Funny, isn't it?
I'm 70 and I would consider it a bit of an insult if anyone on public transport offered me their seat.
I'm perfectly capable of standing up, thanks

[Damo]

I'm sorry, but no. Respect should be earned and living to be old isn't enough alone to earn respect.

No, respect should be the default position.
You read or hear "respect must be earned" quite often, but I have never encountered people in my day to day life that live by this motto

[ClaretPete001]

No, respect should be the default position.
You read or hear "respect must be earned" quite often, but I have never encountered people in my day to day life that live by this motto

I agree I think respect should be lost by the actions of an individual but given in the first instance.

[davideyresleftear]

Common decency and respect should be the default between two people unless there's a good reason. Obviously you wouldn't be showing Gary Glitter respect if you met him.

What some people expect is not respect but deference, which is very different. Also, living until a certain age doesn't automatically elevate you above people who, though pure accident of birth, have been on the planet for less time. You character, actions, and how you treat people are what define you.

[ClaretPete001]

Common decency and respect should be the default between two people unless there's a good reason. Obviously you wouldn't be showing Gary Glitter respect if you met him.

What some people expect is not respect but deference, which is very different. Also, living until a certain age doesn't automatically elevate you above people who, though pure accident of birth, have been on the planet for less time. You character, actions, and how you treat people are what define you.

Agree, I think respect and deference are two totally different things. We seem to have lost a default stance of respect for institutions, science and facts but gained a deference for the opinions of mavericks like Trump, Johnson, Farage and social media influencers.

I suppose the question is whether institutions and expertise has fallen into such disrepute for good reason or otherwise.

[clarethomer]

We are now living in a world where people think it evolves around themselves.

A world of intolerance and ignorance where self-entitlement rules the way people act.

Too many people live their lives by 'knowing their rights' and 'whats in it for me' type view of the world.

I also find too many people can't exist unless their is a drama going on as it appears to give them happiness in the fact that it's something to do and get angry at.

Because of people wanting to self project how they live onto others in the expectation that everyone should live by the principles, codes and ethics - we find that respect means very little these days.

We see it all the time - even examples on this thread of it.

[claret2018]

We are now living in a world where people think it evolves around themselves.

A world of intolerance and ignorance where self-entitlement rules the way people act.

Too many people live their lives by 'knowing their rights' and 'whats in it for me' type view of the world.

I also find too many people can't exist unless their is a drama going on as it appears to give them happiness in the fact that it's something to do and get angry at.

Because of people wanting to self project how they live onto others in the expectation that everyone should live by the principles, codes and ethics - we find that respect means very little these days.

We see it all the time - even examples on this thread of it.

It’s been like that for 40 plus years.