Getting beat up by your Dad.

[Lord Beamish]

Seriously, the tiresomely familiar way this thread has developed just illustrates how broken this Messageboard is.

[evensteadiereddie]

Agreed.

[Reb]

Unfortunately tis true Lord Beamish. My occasional attempts to rejoin the fray are more trouble than it's worth. Makes me feel old.

[Rick_Muller]

Seriously, the tiresomely familiar way this thread has developed just illustrates how broken this Messageboard is.

I feel for the members of the forum who have clearly opened up about deep, dark feelings they have about a difficult subject only for the thread to be hijacked and turned into a petty squabble of "he said, she said" playground abuse. I really wish some forum members would rein in their pettiness for the benefit of the group sometimes.

[UpTheBeehole]

I really wish some forum members would reign in their pettiness for the benefit of the group sometimes.

*Rein

[Lord Beamish]

*Rein

This made me laugh out loud.

[evensteadiereddie]

I was aware of the lack of clarity in my opening point - that's why I corrected it pretty promptly to clear up any ambiguity. One poster certainly read it but that wasn't enough for him/her, choosing to continue to deliberately "misunderstand" hence the absolutely pointless, circular nonsense that followed.

In my defence, I did try to stop the garbage at post 58 but the pack chose to pile in as well so what can you do ?

Profound apologies to anybody who has been deterred from posting their thoughts on this thread, I sincerely hope you're OK and that another opportunity for serious debate and exploration of the issue arises for you.

[conyoviejo]

Don't worry Eddie, it's only a forum.. Life goes on.. I post loads of Schite everyday ..lol

[evensteadiereddie]

And that's where we differ, conyo.........................lol

[Healeywoodclaret]

When he died, I kind of forgave him or at least decided to forget the bad memories and focus on the good.

Sad story this LCP. They don't suddenly becomes saints when they die but I found after my mum passed who I had some issues with I could remember the good times as well as the bad all of a sudden. She sort of made her peace with me from the other side and instead of feeling angry I felt calm about two weeks after she had gone.

[conyoviejo]

And that's where we differ, conyo.........................lol

What,you actually give a ***** about what these muppetss say to you..?

Eddie,You will worry yourself into an empty grave ..

[Healeywoodclaret]

At least he didn't call me Sue.


(Millennials might need to google 'Johnny Cash')

I considered that treatment from my mum was abuse not so much physically although she didn't mind giving us a slap. It was more the things she said which were nasty like I already had two kids. What did I want another for? The marriage was over before you were born! When this is said to a child it then becomes embedded and as you grow up you can't get past it and it manifests itself as resentment.

When I had my children I made it a priority to never miss an opportunity to tell them how precious loved and wanted they were.

Years later I considered the possibility she was depressed when she said those things (and things far worse but too personal to share on here). That doesn't excuse how hurtful her words were but it does explain why she might have said them.

[LoveCurryPies]

I considered that treatment from my mum was abuse not so much physically although she didn't mind giving us a slap. It was more the things she said which were nasty like I already had two kids. What did I want another for? The marriage was over before you were born! When this is said to a child it then becomes embedded and as you grow up you can't get past it and it manifests itself as resentment.

When I had my children I made it a priority to never miss an opportunity to tell them how precious loved and wanted they were.

Years later I considered the possibility she was depressed when she said those things (and things far worse but too personal to share on here). That doesn't excuse how hurtful her words were but it does explain why she might have said them.

Words can be just as cruel. In fact they hurt far longer than physical abuse. Neither is good.

I do think our parents and grand parents weren't as well educated and morally aware. Maybe that's a positive thing for today's younger generation.

[Healeywoodclaret]

Stop posting, you're making a dick of yourself.
Let it go, nobody's bothered any more.

You worked with children and parents for forty years? Never been a parent yourself? Forty Years??? You are old enough to know better than make some of the pig ignorant comments you make on here.

[evensteadiereddie]

Christ, Healey, how many more friggin' times ?
Please don't fall into the stupid, lazy trap the usual suspects have. Forty years working with kids and parents. Three girls of my own. And ?

I made a comment, revised it to make it clear to the dumbest of the dumb and then spent too much time fending off childish, personal abuse from a bunch of illiterate idiots who could not or would not understand what was actually said.

You're better than that, surely ?
If not, you carry on, bud, but out of respect for the issue under discussion , I'm not playing any more........

[TVC15]

For somebody “not playing anymore” you seem to struggle to stop posting.
Yes you changed your original post - which is good. But even now you still insult people as being stupid, lazy “usual suspects” etc instead of apologising for what you said.

It matters not a jot that you have 3 girls and worked with children for 40 years. You still said what you said.

[evensteadiereddie]

Yes and then changed it to help you out so **** off and show some respect to the OP, you soft, cowardly get and stop trying to keep stirring this shite.
I'm done arguing pointlessly over and over with to$$ers like you.
Sorry but there it is.
You'll have to play with yourself from now on................you're probably used to it.

THE END

[Diesel]

[quote="TVC15]I am happy to end this by meeting up - genuinely I would be delighted if you had the balls to say that stuff in person.[/quote]

** A meet alert **

[Bordeauxclaret]

The irony if one of them is beaten up.

[Damo]

I'm sorry for my earlier contributions to this thread. Reading back the important contributions, I really feel bad you have suffered at the hands of the people who should protect you.
I am lucky. My dad never raised his hand to me. If he raised his voice it was such a rarity that I knew I had overstepped the mark. I always thought being grounded or told off was normal and to hear other people's experiences of "normal" is saddening to say the least.

[Dy1geo]

I'm sorry for my earlier contributions to this thread. Reading back the important contributions, I really feel bad you have suffered at the hands of the people who should protect you.
I am lucky. My dad never raised his hand to me. If he raised his voice it was such a rarity that I knew I had overstepped the mark. I always thought being grounded or told off was normal and to hear other people's experiences of "normal" is saddening to say the least.

Mine was more or less the same, i felt left out as he never watched me play football when I was a junior but now realised he was working to provide at the same time. My heart can only go out to the OP an others who have openly talked about their childhood. A mate I used to work with once told me his step dad locked him in the cupboard under the stairs on a regular basis and it affected him.
Finally on threads like this I think posters should engage brain first before writing.

[ClaretTony]

Unfortunately tis true Lord Beamish. My occasional attempts to rejoin the fray are more trouble than it's worth. Makes me feel old.

Then please report things because it’s the only way we can sort it.

[fidelcastro]

Threads are deleted whether they are reported or not it would seem.

[ClaretTony]

Threads are deleted whether they are reported or not it would seem.

Really

[fidelcastro]

Yes.

The "Bong racism" thread was deleted, as was my thread asking why.

It would be helpful if any offensive threads that have overstepped the mark, could either be locked, like they used to be, or have an explanation as to why they have been deleted.

Just a thought.

[ClaretTony]

Yes.

The "Bong racism" thread was deleted, as was my thread asking why.

It would be helpful if any offensive threads that have overstepped the mark, could either be locked, like they used to be, or have an explanation as to why they have been deleted.

Just a thought.

One thread has been deleted - started by you with your customary challenging of the running of the board. Other threads are being investigated. You seem to think you know more about the moderating of this board than the moderators.

[fidelcastro]

Investigated? No, it's been deleted. Anyone who commented on it can see that .

Perhaps that thread did have some racist comments after I logged out, I don't know, but it's interesting how you won't tolerate that (rightly btw) but still allow out and out racists to post on here.

We all know who they are!

[ClaretTony]

Investigated? No, it's been deleted. Anyone who commented on it can see that .

Perhaps that thread did have some racist comments after I logged out, I don't know, but it's interesting how you won't tolerate that (rightly btw) but still allow out and out racists to post on here.

We all know who they are!

Deleted - no - so you are wrong there
Racists allowed to post - no - but if they do then you help them by not reporting anything.

Try getting your facts right, it would help.

[fidelcastro]

Deleted - no - so you are wrong there
Racists allowed to post - no - but if they do then you help them by not reporting anything.

Try getting your facts right, it would help.

Unless you've merged a thread, then the "Bong Racism" thread has disappeared.

If I'm wrong, then I apologise.

[Rick_Muller]

Unless you've merged a thread, then the "Bong Racism" thread has disappeared.

If I'm wrong, then I apologise.

The Bong racism thread was likely pulled because there was a clear attempt at antagonising going on by one message board user who claimed to be from Brighton. I reported this to the Mods and I am glad it was pulled. There was nothing constructive on that particular thread, it was all tit-for-tat name calling unlike the other discussion thread about the same subject.

[fidelcastro]

The Bong racism thread was likely pulled because there was a clear attempt at antagonising going on by one message board user who claimed to be from Brighton. I reported this to the Mods and I am glad it was pulled. There was nothing constructive on that particular thread, it was all tit-for-tat name calling unlike the other discussion thread about the same subject.

So, there was a deleted thread, then?

I'm not imagining things afterall!