• Divorce advice.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:26 pm**

I'm finally getting round to getting divorced and wondered if anyone had done it without using solicitors or a website.

It seems easy enough from what I've read, just pop along to my local court and fill out some paperwork?

Anyone else done it without help from elsewhere?

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:30 pm**

Got divorced a few years ago. We did it ourselves.
Courts extremely helpful, when certain parts needed
changing. We googled most of it. Much better than paying someone to do it, or that's what we found.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:32 pm**

You could tip her in lake coniston from the air

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:32 pm**

Try not to get solicitors involved sid.

They like to stir it up. The more it's stirred the more fractious it gets. The more fractious it gets they more money they make. I have a 12 grand solicitors Bill to prove it.

Going to a solicitor re a divorce, and not expecting a big Bill at the end . Is like going to a used car lot and not expecting the sales man to try and flog you a car!

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:32 pm**

Hide any cash

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:39 pm**

Breeze blocks. Chains.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:41 pm**

No cash or assets to hide, I've made sure of that by having nothing anyone can take from me whilst clearing debts from the marriage.
Even my car is going into my current spouses name now the finance is paid off.

Turns out I haven't spoken to her in 2 yrs when I checked, and we've separated 7 yrs now.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:41 pm**

Jerry Lee Lewis nickname could be appropriate Sidney..

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:45 pm**

I did it myself with a few complications involved which meant a bit more running about.If it's amicable between you both be very straight forward can't remember the cost think it was in the region of £200 that's from five years ago

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:53 pm**

surely depends on the circumstances...if its a relatively amicable split and you trust her not to play silly beggars then keep the blood suckers out of it....we got a 60 grand solicitors bill when buying our mill....avoid like the plague if you can....if it does go the solicitor route then make sure she knows she will be paying half.....good luck sydney.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:57 pm**

Agree on keeping solicitors out of it if you can. Me and the thankfully now ex had been separated for years. No money or anything else to dispute. Her solicitor was trying to egg her on for all sorts of stuff. To be fair, she told him to get stuffed!

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:59 pm**

Sidney1st wrote:No cash or assets to hide, I've made sure of that by having nothing anyone can take from me whilst clearing debts from the marriage.
Even my car is going into my current spouses name now the finance is paid off.

Turns out I haven't spoken to her in 2 yrs when I checked, and we've separated 7 yrs now.

Your life sounds like the Sea Sick Steve album Sid.

"I started out with nothing. But I still have most of it left!"

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 3:01 pm**

I had less than nothing Ringo, I had plenty of debts to clear!!

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 3:06 pm**

Sidney1st wrote:I had less than nothing Ringo, I had plenty of debts to clear!!

Been there fella.

Can't complain though looking back. 3 kids and 8 good years. We were marred for 16, but 8 of em were good!

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 3:29 pm**

The best divorce advice I can offer is that of a preventative measure. Dont get married in the first place...

just wish I knew that before I bloody did it...! (the first time...)

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 3:52 pm**

Helped a family member out with a divorce a few years ago. Easy if on grounds of separation and uncontested.

I found a website (can't remember name but google 'divorce online' or similar. They do the paperwork and send it to you for signing. Stress free. Cost about 1k.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 5:17 pm**

would it be cheaper to hire a hitman?

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 6:55 pm**

Did it myself and it cost about £300 tops, just downloaded everything and stuck to the timescales which I remember were important. Straightforward. Good luck.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 7:03 pm**

Cost me in excess of 200 grand

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:03 pm**

There's always one...

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:08 pm**

dpinsussex wrote:Cost me in excess of 200 grand

Yep the hitman advice sounds better

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:20 pm**

dpinsussex wrote:Cost me in excess of 200 grand

Dang mate, ouch...

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:22 pm**

Wow that's a lot.

I thought I was lucky walking away with nearly £25k of debt, never mind losing £200k..

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:25 pm**

Sidney1st wrote:Wow that's a lot.

I thought I was lucky walking away with nearly £25k of debt, never mind losing £200k..

It was worth it. Still got the kids and the house and my dignity
And now i rebuild and go again.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:29 pm**

You can pick up a spade online pretty cheap

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:56 pm**

But how much is a good patio?

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 11:05 pm**

dpinsussex wrote:Cost me in excess of 200 grand

Holy ****

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 11:17 pm**

Sid - do either of you have a pension ?

As if one of you does (or you both have but one is worth a lot more than the other) then one of you could be entitled to some of the other persons pension.

It's called a sharing order and one will get a pension credit and the other a pension debit - it can be very significant in divorce settlements.

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 11:19 pm**

dpinsussex wrote:Cost me in excess of 200 grand

She got the house?

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 11:23 pm**

cloughyclaret wrote:Holy ****

Is that robin?

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 11:28 pm**

tim_noone wrote:Is that robin?

Someone is, Tim

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 11:30 pm**

cloughyclaret wrote:Someone is, Tim

nice one!!!!

Posted: **Fri Jun 09, 2017 11:55 pm**

My mate is beginning divorce proceedings in August... he's getting married on the 11th...

Posted: **Sat Jun 10, 2017 1:50 am**

dpinsussex wrote:It was worth it. Still got the kids and the house and my dignity
And now i rebuild and go again.

I met Dignity-really nice Filly

Posted: **Sat Jun 10, 2017 1:59 am**

TVC15 wrote:Sid - do either of you have a pension ?

As if one of you does (or you both have but one is worth a lot more than the other) then one of you could be entitled to some of the other persons pension.

It's called a sharing order and one will get a pension credit and the other a pension debit - it can be very significant in divorce settlements.

**solicitor alert**

Posted: **Sat Jun 10, 2017 2:00 am**

dpinsussex wrote:It was worth it. Still got the kids and the house and my dignity
And now i rebuild and go again.

You wanna go again??? You must be loaded!!

Posted: **Sat Jun 10, 2017 10:10 am**

cloughyclaret wrote:She got the house?

No i did:)
Since sold it and got nearly 100k back

Posted: **Sat Jun 10, 2017 10:10 am**

mybloodisclaret wrote:You wanna go again??? You must be loaded!!

My advice is find somwine that has more than u to start with lol

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