Mental Health Awareness - There is always somebody that will listen

[jdrobbo]

Please spend ten minutes watching this incredibly moving video, just released by Wolves.

To anyone on here who has suffered with their own mental health and to those who may not be feeling too great at the moment, please know that there is always someone here to talk to. This messageboard CAN be an incredibly powerful (and kind) place.

Keep talking and check-in on those who may be vulnerable around you. If you’re not sure, ask them again how they are!

Have a lovely weekend, Clarets!

John

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https://youtu.be/CyNgc_gKTsE?si=FMb2ljOYQ_nxpqQf

[SurreyClaret99]

WOW!!!
Powerful video!
Ended up watching with tears rolling down my face

Thank jdrobbo for posting and to Wolves for making the video.

Kindness costs nothing and giving a stranger a smile may make all the difference to their day and asking someone if they are 'really' alright may just get someone to open up and ask for help.

[Jakubclaret]

Anything that raises awareness & prevents unnecessary suicides & promotes positivity within society can only be a good thing. Too many people hide away & don't admit things are wrong. People need reassurances lots of problems are simple fixes.

[jdrobbo]

Anything that raises awareness & prevents unnecessary suicides & promotes positivity within society can only be a good thing.

Quite right!

[Jakubclaret]

Quite right!

You start losing fingers the older you get counting those that have fallen by the wayside. We can't really discuss politics but that's where a lot of it starts.

[NL Claret]

At work we are promoting MH Awareness Week including wear it green day on Thursday , hopefully it helps to raise awareness of how comments like grow a pair, man up and grow a thicker a skin are so offensive and dated in this day and age.

[Wile E Coyote]

very profound, well done for sharing it, and credit to the wonderful wolves lad who did this. V emotional.

[Rouwens_Weapon]

Very thoughtful by Wolves. It shows that some people just need a positive nudge to open up.

The stat from Mind is that 1 in 6 people in the UK will experience common mental health problems in a week. If you translate that to a match day at Turf Moor, there will be thousands of people potentially struggling or going through a rough patch so it is worth asking the person sat next to you how they're doing.

[Conroysleftfoot]

Thanks for posting this, wouldn't have seen it otherwise.

[jdrobbo]

A pleasure

[Clive 1960]

Sometimes it's hard for people with mental health problems to talk about it ..

[jdrobbo]

Sometimes it's hard for people with mental health problems to talk about it ..

This is absolutely true. I think the hope is that people support people in trying to break down stigmas, show that they perhaps themselves have been vulnerable too, or at least understand that vulnerability, and that it’s usually easier to work through issues with someone else alongside you than you.

[Clive 1960]

This is absolutely true. I think the hope is that people support people in trying to break down stigmas, show that they perhaps themselves have been vulnerable too, or at least understand that vulnerability, and that it’s usually easier to work through issues with someone else alongside you than you.

Easier said than done in some situations and just depends on what you are going through at the time, i know as i have been in that dark place or on the edge but i found a better place even though it came at a cost ...

[jdrobbo]

Easier said than done in some situations and just depends on what you are going through at the time, i know as i have been in that dark place or on the edge but i found a better place even though it came at a cost ...

I understand completely where you’re coming from. I’m sorry to hear you’ve experienced costs personally. If you ever want to share, I would always try to be available, although I know I won’t be able to replace those ‘costs’. Hope you have a nice day.

[Clive 1960]

I understand completely where you’re coming from. I’m sorry to hear you’ve experienced costs personally. If you ever want to share, I would always try to be available, although I know I won’t be able to replace those ‘costs’. Hope you have a nice day.

Thank you Jdrobbo. mine is complicated as it effected my marriage and my Son..

[AGENT_CLARET]

POWERFUL

[TsarBomba]

Thanks for posting John, what an unbelievable video.

If anyone needs anything day or night, then I’m always free for a chat. If anyone lives in and around Kent and is having a rough time and wants to meet up, then I’m more than happy to do that too.

Let’s keep looking after each other.

[jdrobbo]

Thank you Jdrobbo. mine is complicated as it effected my marriage and my Son..

Sounds incredibly difficult for you, mate. Regardless of complexity, I would imagine that there are others who can relate, if you wanted to share. I guarantee there’d be people prepared to listen. How are you at present?

[Clive 1960]

Sounds incredibly difficult for you, mate. Regardless of complexity, I would imagine that there are others who can relate, if you wanted to share. I guarantee there’d be people prepared to listen. How are you at present?

I have been in a lot worse place about what i had to endure what my ex was doing to our Son enabling him to do what he did and i had to make a decision about everything and divorced my ex and made a hard decision to move abroad and met someone who had her problems of her own before we met and got on but feeling's never go away..

[mdd2]

Well done to Wolves and the lad. Looks like he,they may have saved someone's life that day. The biggest problem is getting those in a bad place to open up and admit they are in difficulties. I have personal experience of family friends and associates no longer with us and the first sign that things were wrong was after the event. A colleague of mine spent six weeks in MH hospital and was deemed improved to be discharged and took his life the same day.
It is great things like Robbo posted are done and hopefully we will save some people but it can be impossible to spot and therefore to prevent. I am not sure of the stats but I suspect most people who have committed suicide do it at their first attempt. The ones I have personally knowledge of died at first attempt and made sure they would succeed.
But if we dont try to spot and prevent the toll will go on
Well done Robbo.
So so very sad for those gone and those left behind. 8 years on I still cry and ask "If only I had... and what if i had done.......
But it is too late

[jdrobbo]

I have been in a lot worse place about what i had to endure what my ex was doing to our Son enabling him to do what he did and i had to make a decision about everything and divorced my ex and made a hard decision to move abroad and met someone who had her problems of her own before we met and got on but feeling's never go away..

Thank you for sharing. I can't relate to your situation but I have struggled occasionally and I have used therapy just a year or so ago, which was an incredible help. If you ever do need to talk (I know it's not easy), my email is my username at gmail dot com. ANY TIME!

J

[jdrobbo]

Well done to Wolves and the lad. Looks like he,they may have saved someone's life that day. The biggest problem is getting those in a bad place to open up and admit they are in difficulties. I have personal experience of family friends and associates no longer with us and the first sign that things were wrong was after the event. A colleague of mine spent six weeks in MH hospital and was deemed improved to be discharged and took his life the same day.
It is great things like Robbo posted are done and hopefully we will save some people but it can be impossible to spot and therefore to prevent. I am not sure of the stats but I suspect most people who have committed suicide do it at their first attempt. The ones I have personally knowledge of died at first attempt and made sure they would succeed.
But if we dont try to spot and prevent the toll will go on
Well done Robbo.
So so very sad for those gone and those left behind. 8 years on I still cry and ask "If only I had... and what if i had done.......
But it is too late

Quite! I appreciate that though. I try and do my bit with the #MileForLyle initiative that I set up. It has happened every day for the last 26 days and 1 day...half a year. If it has helped just one or two people (the amount of DMs I have had suggest that it has), then that's a good thing I hope, even though I accept that it's not for everyone.

[Clive 1960]

Thank you for sharing. I can't relate to your situation but I have struggled and I have used therapy just a year or so ago, which was an incredible help. If you ever do need to talk (I know it's not easy), my email is my username at gmail dot com. ANY TIME!

J

will do...

[jdrobbo]

[jdrobbo]

Bump

[Pearcey]

Fantastic stuff from Wolves. I hope there will be a time when people don’t feel like they should suffer in silence and realise it’s ok to not be ok. I’ve lost a cousin to suicide and also some old RAF colleagues. It’s just too common!
The posters on here who have reached out are truly as inspirational as those who have helped them.
If you’re struggling, please talk to someone!

[jdrobbo]

Fantastic stuff from Wolves. I hope there will be a time when people don’t feel like they should suffer in silence and realise it’s ok to not be ok. I’ve lost a cousin to suicide and also some old RAF colleagues. It’s just too common!
The posters on here who have reached out are truly as inspirational as those who have helped them.
If you’re struggling, please talk to someone!

Sorry to hear this, Pearcey. We’re all here if you need to talk.

[wilks_bfc]

Fantastic and moving video
What struck me was as how many males, and young males at that, were going to him which to me shows me that the “men don’t reach out” stigmas seem to be going

The 2 guys at the end (the one that returned, and the guy in the red away shirt) were the ones that got to me for some reason

[jdrobbo]

Agree

[Taffy on the wing]

Beautiful!
As someone who has suffered from this & also lost a very good friend to it....it had me blubbering.
It's always good to see there are still people who care for others....it's VERY hard to see that if you're actually in a depression.

[jdrobbo]

So sorry to hear that you’ve experienced tough times Taffy, and lost a friend. Sounds very difficult indeed.

[aclaretinstevenage]

That is really powerful. My kids have issues so this struck home.

The company I retired from run Mental Health Workshops which I occasionally sit in on even now 4 yrs later, to discuss a life changing event with one of my kids which features in the workshop presentation.

The whole thing changed my attitude to Mental Health in a heartbeat. My generation largely grew up with the "man up" approach to such issues, stuff like this Wolves initiative are a massive help in changing that attitude. Well done to them and Reepa himself.

Thanks for sharing JDR.

[jdrobbo]

That is really powerful. My kids have issues so this struck home.

The company I retired from run Mental Health Workshops which I occasionally sit in on even now 4 yrs later, to discuss a life changing event with one of my kids which features in the workshop presentation.

The whole thing changed my attitude to Mental Health in a heartbeat. My generation largely grew up with the "man up" approach to such issues, stuff like this Wolves initiative are a massive help in changing that attitude. Well done to them and Reepa himself.

Thanks for sharing JDR.

An absolute pleasure. Sounds like you have an interesting story. I hope you and family are well.

[aclaretinstevenage]

An absolute pleasure. Sounds like you have an interesting story. I hope you and family are well.
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The family are well enough just now thanks JDR.

As for the story being interesting, the thing comes back to haunt me on occasion for sure. My wife spoke about it with her friends very soon after the event where as I bottled it up for nearly 10 years when for reasons still unclear to me I divulged it to the Mental Health First Aider at work who presents the aforementioned workshops. That conversation certainly helped me let go a little bi

[jdrobbo]

Sometimes you have to step away from the people you think you should automatically be conversing with, as it’s sometimes a lot easier to have those difficult conversations with someone you don’t know quite as well, someone impartial, or perhaps even a therapist. it’s amazing what those little conversations can bring for many.

[aclaretinstevenage]

Sometimes you have to step away from the people you think you should automatically be conversing with, as it’s sometimes a lot easier to have those difficult conversations with someone you don’t know quite as well, someone impartial, or perhaps even a therapist. it’s amazing what those little conversations can bring for many.

I agree, my siblings (7 of them) and their families know nothing about our experience but as you say it is a little easier talking to someone remote from it.

[elwaclaret]

Been pretty low myself since finishing my masters. Spoke to my head of department this morning he made me cry reminding me how I’d finished the Masters despite losing a grandchild and being diagnosed with 3 Autisms and Adult ADHD and how much he wanted to celebrate with me at graduation in July.

Now I watched this and cried again… some going for someone who last opened up and cried about ten years ago.

My motto
Past is gone, next step counts.
God bless
And Keep up the good work. John.

[jdrobbo]

Been pretty low myself since finishing my masters. Spoke to my head of department this morning he made me cry reminding me how I’d finished the Masters despite losing a grandchild and being diagnosed with 3 Autisms and Adult ADHD and how much he wanted to celebrate with me at graduation in July.

Now I watched this and cried again… some going for someone who last opened up and cried about ten years ago.

My motto
Past is gone, next step counts.
God bless
And Keep up the good work. John.

Top man! Congratulations on your Masters. A fantastic achievement. Hope you’re okay!

[elwaclaret]

Top man! Congratulations on your Masters. A fantastic achievement. Hope you’re okay!

Better for being reminded there are some good guys out there, my friend

[DXS]

Recently met a llad called Andy Reid who runs a charity called standing tall, he lost 3 limbs when he stood on a I.E.D. in Afghanistan, the talk he gave was full of humour but really struck a chord with me, if you ever get chance look him up on you tube or Google,.I'm lucky enough to work for a company who embrace mental health providing support to any employee who wants it and they brought Andy in to give a talk, what an inspiration he is basically putting what happened to him as having a bad day at work, which when compared to me having a bad day at work I.e. missing targets really puts things into perspective.
Also big shout out to 2 lads who are doing the three peaks very soon, they calling it Twins three peaks, check out there story and help out if you can.
Cheers all always here if someone wants a natter

[jdrobbo]

Thanks for the post and the info. Inspiring people!

[jdrobbo]

Hope people are okay. Thanks to those who’ve shared things.

[Funkydrummer]

If you're at a loose end tonight, Lowerhouse CC are entertaining
Padiham CC in a charity T20 match for mental health.

18.15 start. A good night is on the cards and there is a band (Gumball)
playing after the game into the night.

Entry is by donation at the gate, suggested at £2, £1 concessions, but any
greater amounts are more than welcome. Hope to see some of you there.

IT WILL BE BUSY (if the weather holds)

[jdrobbo]

Love this