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by sleeperclaret » Wed Mar 26, 2025 5:24 pm
I don't agree with Rowls on this, or many other things on the political spectrum, but suggesting he's just trolling, or doesn't believe what he's saying is just an attempt to trivialize the poster, rather than argue the post itself. That in turn undermines the reverse arguments because they can be dismissed as unfair, attacking etc. This behaviour does nothing but polarize opinions based on which poster you agree with most. Argue in good faith - you'll find it less frustrating and find the reciprocal arguments less divisive, hopefully.
FWIW, I don't think Joey is psychologically "typical". His responses to situations, particularly where under pressure or emotional stress, or he's trying to impress or assert authority over others, seem to default to violence. The causes of that could be traced back to his childhood but it's rarely a one-issue thing. There is no one element of someone's life that entirely determines the way they are or continue to be. The fact that he had a few years where he was able to control his actions aligns with the comments around external factors influencing his behaviour, be they Sean Dyche's influence or something else. Were they a mask, a temporary fix, or did something happen after to force him to return to his old ways and undo the control he had? Regardless, what he did was definitely wrong and I think he was only spared jail time because his wife changed her story.
But I am curious, Rowls, about the use of the word "father."
Is it a gender-specific thing or a numerical thing? So if there are 2 mothers in a family, does the child have worse life chances than a mother/father combination?
What if the father works away for 10 months of the year? Does that affect life chances, compared to those who spend every day and night together?
Are their children's life chances worse if there are 2 mothers, compared to a single father raising a child for example?
Is a two-father household superior to other cohabiting family units because you get twice the fathers?
Bringing other elements in that have been discussed: are the life chances of a below-the-poverty-line mother/father household worse than a very rich two mothers household?
Are the life chances better where the father is at home, but is a criminal, or an abuser, than one where the mother has escaped the domestic violence and safeguards the child from that lifestyle but lives alone?
If not, is that because of the exposure to domestic violence at a young age and the effects of PTSD, the hours the single parent has to work to make ends meet, that they fell in with the wrong crowd? Which is those is the biggest factor on life chances?
I think there is a whole venn diagram of scenarios here that made Joey what he was and is, and another about general families and lifestyles. Simplifying it in such a way is really unhelpful when trying to resolve complex social issues. I also care about providing the best life chances possible for children, but I very much worry about any one-dimensional silver bullet that will solve the problem of giving kids the best life possible.
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